Getting Over It

Living and traveling abroad gets the attention and glory, but what about part two of the story: moving on and getting over it? Some people easily resume their former lives, while others have a difficult time coming back. Here are some people's takes on what to do to move on after returning from an adventure.

"I think the best way to get over stagnancy of a return home is to get involved; something to take up your time and to let you know that there is adventure where you are."
- Tiffany Bird, LDS mission

"You move on, but you never stop missing it. If you can get over it, it probably wasn't the greatest trip. My advice would be don't try to get over it. Remember it, and just treasure the memories."

- Max Davis, Euopean Humanities Tour

"You cry. You cry some more. You talk to people. And you get over it. You have to still think about the past and talk about it, but not live in the past. Talking about it’s been the biggest thing, or when I get to talk to friends on facebook that are in Chile, [and] listening to Spanish music has really helped me."

- Emily Mower, semester abroad in Chile

"I think to come back and move on you must realize that there are always fun adventures to be had and that you're exciting adventures are a compliment to your everyday adventures. You need to understand that in order to not turn a good experience into a sad experience you can't lament what is over."

- Jason Parker

"For me, I realized that in order to get back there (China)--and even though I want to go back now--I have to get my education first so that I can help those people and be a part of those changes."

- Lauren Weaver, five month teaching English in China

"Moving on from trips is made easier by staying in touch with the people that I met, associated, and grew to love on the trip. I think that just by the simple fact that we had a shared experience that was somewhat challenging but also at the same time spiritual, those experiences bond people together."

- Sarah Bedke, MATS Tour

"Reading [Elder Holland's talk, "The Best Is Yet to Be"] gave me conviction to not live in the past but to move on. When I take the time to reread the experiences I recorded in my journal it reawakens in me the responsibility that I have to share what I learned and actually apply it."

- Molly Davis, BYU-Jerusalem Center

Push It Down

Just one of the 13 songs Emily Mower wrote while in Chile. This song, "Push It Down," captures her reluctance to leave Chile and return to the United States.

Vidéo

Sometimes pictures just aren’t enough. Along with guitar songs, studying (sometimes), and church activities, Emily Mower and Holli Guest made homemade videos to capture their experiences abroad.

La Guitarra

When removed from familiar environments and norms, it is valuable to have a worthwhile hobby. Emily Mower applied her musical background in Chile and learned how to play the guitar. The music from her guitar was an emotional outlet for Mower, and she used it to write 13 original songs.

“Having something that I had control over besides Spanish not only gave me something to do, but helped my self-confidence. Developing hobbies or talents is very fulfilling and the guitar is something I can play my whole life.”

Atacma Dessert

In the words of Emily Mower...

"My favorite place was the Atacama Dessert. There were geysers and lakes and ruins. I had the opportunity to sit in the middle of nowhere with a friend and we had a really introspective conversation. It was an opportunity to reflect on where I was metaphorically in my life. I realized how blessed I was and thought about what I needed to do to live up to those blessings."

Chile, Chile Lindo

Chile: not the red-hot pepper, and not a cold condition. Chile is the South American country on the south western coast that Emily Mower, a junior studying Spanish education studied in for a semester abroad.

Mower lived in Chile four and a half months from August to December 2009 with a host Chilean family and studied at the University Vina del Mar.

But her lessons-learned extended beyond the classroom. Adjusting to a new country was a bit of a challenge in and of itself.

“Upon arriving [in Chile] it hit me that I knew absolutely no one in the entire country and I had no idea what they were saying to me,” Mower said. “Everything was different, down to the light switches and power outlets. I had never been so far away from my family. I was scared and alone.”

She adjusted herself to new schedules and expectations.

“The concept of time is completely different in Chile,” Mower said. “The first time I went to an activity we were supposed to meet at 7 o’ clock. Being the American I am, I was there at 6:50, and no one else arrived until 7:30.”

Through conscious effort, Mower pushed herself and began to truly enjoy her time in Chile.

“It was definitely a process to become happy there,” Mower said. “One of the things that helped me the most--besides praying--was being around people. When I was with other people, whether they were American or Chilean, I didn’t feel so alone. Feeling accepting by the Chileans in the young single adult group was one of the biggest strengths to me.”

Activities with fellow members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints proved to be invaluable to Mower. She also witness firsthand the consistency of the Church and it’s worldwide influence.

“The Church is the same everywhere,” Mower said. “The gospel does not change. The first Sunday I was in Chile, I received so much peace and comfort when I walked into the chapel and someone was playing Joseph Smith’s First Prayer.”

With the friends Mower made through the Church and the university, she improved her Spanish.

“At first it was very discouraging because natives speak so fast and with a little articulation,” Mower said. “It was embarrassing when I didn’t understand what people told me or asked me. But learned to get over it and just do my best.”

Mower learned the importance of confidence in learning a new language, and for approaching life in general.

“I learned to be confident. When you fake confidence, it slowly develops into real confidence,” Mower said. “It’s important to have faith in yourself to be able to do something. If you tell yourself that you can’t do something, then you won’t be able to.”

Mower values her semester abroad in Chile, and recommends others to take advantage of opportunities that take them outside the United States.

“It is completely worth the sacrifice of whatever it takes,” Mower said. “Not only do you learn a lot, but the fun memories stay with you forever. I wish all Americans could live outside the country for an extended period of time. Some people think that America has everything and is perfect. Other countries live differently, but it’s just as fulfilling.”

One of many memories